Why My Marriage Might Offend You

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Over the past couple of weeks I’ve noticed a trend among women while perusing several other blogs and random articles. There seems to be a quite ubiquitous undertone about the resentment that some single women have towards women who are married. Again, I said some. Do not bring your enraged commentary under my post acting an entire fool if this does not apply to or describe you! In reality, the fact of the matter is that there are a lot of dejected and miserable females of the human species that are roaming this good Earth; and a great deal of it stems from relationship status. Denying only makes the issue worse, and then the bitterness continues to fester. Well, this girl here isn’t going to let you throw your acrimonious little temper tantrums and start downplaying my peace of mind just to keep your scab from peeling! We have got to learn to stop apologizing for the depths of our euphoria and the plight towards positivity that we have demanded and drawn into our lives. Some may call me a narcissist after reading this, while others will shout in praise. However you take it, just remember that your and my life still exist outside of this blog! 🙂

Now in true fashion of my infamous lists, spicy speculations, and widely known word venom, I have personally put together some brutally honest logic as to why my, and other women’s, marriages just might leave you a bit vexed.

  1. We Actually Like Each Other –  As in, even on our bad days we don’t want to stab each other into little pieces. We actually know and appreciate who we’ve married and enjoy being around one another. This seems to get under people’s skin. Why? I don’t know, but that isn’t my problem to figure out either! I know you’re thinking that this is a bit obvious but it isn’t. There is a huge percentage of the population married to individuals whom they don’t actually even care for. I’ve seen it before. It goes along with the issue of marrying for the wrong reasons.
  2. We Have No Skeletons in the Closet – We both have pasts. We are both aware of those pasts. We could care less…Nothing is secretly going to be revealed that will make the other fret or cause disarray in our union. This annoys people…We are sorry for your disappointment.
  3. Our Marriage is No Different on Social Media Than it is in Real Life – This is a basic one but it needed to be said. We don’t pretend or portray to be anything that we are not. What you see is what you get and most people who end up meeting us are usually pleasantly surprised by our relationship. We don’t hide our love, but we also aren’t obnoxiously leaving kissing emojis all over each other’s pages every ten minutes. We follow one another on different sites and neither of us have any weird, possessive, jealousy, or infidelity issues involved in that. Again, this seems to tick people off. Social Media runs the world and the validity of your relationship depends on its portrayal. HA!
  4. My Husband Used to a Player – Like, not a regular player, but the super smooth frat guy that your Momma always told your butt to stay away from. Then he told all of the runner ups to stop texting him and turned his player card in for little ole me. People can’t seem to, and don’t want to, fathom that.
  5. We Are Best Friends. If There is Ever a Me Versus You Situation, I Will Always Win – This one seems to be the killer, and not many truly understand. My husband is my protector, my bodyguard, and my King. He will always and forever have my back! We have been through a great deal together, and when he took his vows he meant it. Unfortunately there is not a darn thing you’re going to be able to do about that…Sorry But Not Sorry 😉
  6. We Are Happy – It’s just that simple. Real Life Undeniable Unconditional Black Love! Two people who took a chance and make it work. My real life Love Jones, the ‘perfect hook to a dope beat,’ the one who ‘personifies my admiration’ and makes me giggle. He is my Lover and the Father of my children. He accepts me the way that I am and holds my existence in the highest regard. He is I and I am Me! Just let us be.

I have found my Cloud Nine, and you better go find yours! Never be mad about what the next lady has…Instead, ask her how she got it!

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27 thoughts on “Why My Marriage Might Offend You

  1. My cousin did her thing again. She is as real, raw and profound about her family as you can digest. She will feed you the truth if you ask her but be ready to get full whether you want to or not. Go ahead cousin and express yourself, I see you winning. You and Devo have something that many envy. Keep pushing for the mark many fabricate it but can’t duplicate it. KEEP IT REAL at all times little lady, I envision you on top!

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  2. YESSSS to this a hundred times! I can relate to all of this. Thanks for keeping it real. I tell “them” all the time don’t be mad at mine, “getchu some!” great post as usual.

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  3. I like # 4 people can change when they find what they are looking for. Everyone gemerally matures in their own time. If you are not the person that is chosen to be a lifetime mate/partner cry your tears, regroup and move on.

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  4. I simply love this. You are definitely telling the truth. This is exactly how I feel about my marriage. So glad God designed someone just for you!!! I love seeing real love and people happy!

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  5. This post ROCKS!!! You are such an awesome blogger! I appreciate your realness. Every time I read your posts, I’m like that’s us! This is my family! Lol keep up the fantastic job of bringing us a real look at a real family. And thank you for sharing your family with us 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾

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  6. I wonder if you would feel comfortable letting people know that you married your best friends boyfriend…what would your followers really think of you if they really knew the story behind you and your “husband”.

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  7. “We Actually Like Each Other ” this is so important! I remember Michelle Obama and Jada P-Smith saying very similar things. They, like you, chose well. They like their husbands. Sometimes liking each other can surpass love. You like your partner. You understand them. You trust their decisions and thought process. You don’t want to change them. You don’t want to silence them.

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  9. This!!! I appreciate you writing this for me (just Kidding) but wow! Thank you for speaking truth as I relate to this 100%. Congrats on your blissful relationship!

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  10. Love this!!!! My husband and I are very young! Some people think we were too young when were wed. He is 28 and I am 25 we have been together for about 12 years and married for four! everything in this post is about us! Most ppl our age are no where near the lane we are in and i feel sometimes it outcasts us. Not that i care though because it no better place id rather be. You know you lose friends sometimes family because now no one relates to your situation. your conversations aren’t the same conversations. That is why HE is my best friend my confidant, my lover for life. Thank you for this!

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  11. I lol at 4….I’m single, and I’ve experience and saw some married women look down on singles because they are single and throw it in their face every chance they get. Interesting to see a different angle. I’m not jealous of anyone’s marriage. ..don’t even get involved like that because I enjoy freedom that comes with my singleness. ….someone would have to be God sent to change that.

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  12. My feeling’s on married couples not all, but some the reason I was upset is because I felt like these people didn’t deserve to get married. They are not a good fit for eachother. I’ve seen women treat their husband’s like crap. But yet in still there I was still not married still didn’t have anyone true to my team. What I had to learn is that everyone will go through their trails and tribulations once and awhile also I had to learn how to love myself so that my mate could also treat me and love me the way he’s supposed too. So then my man after whom I’ve known for a year was by my side all along I never knew. Now I feel like I have the same issues. But we as women need yo love ourselves first. Know how it feel’s and want to get to know ourselves first before even thinking about loving someone else. No one else can love us like us ladies! Except for the lord of course. Get to know him!

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  13. You better say that girl! Number 5 had me celebrating WITH you lol. I’m a single woman who is definitely supportive of other woman and love. Even without having my own, I understand and appreciate the beauty of unity. I just released my new blog series today, HOW I KNEW SHE WAS THE ONE – featuring pieces from 6 men about their relationships. Would love for you to check it out after reading this lol. ❤

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